It is finally my birthday and I couldn’t be happier. I love birthdays, and to be honest, I don’t even know why. Birthdays mean you are getting one year older, you are growing and you are learning. Each year I realise certain things and learn others, so I thought I would share 22 things I have learned by 22.
- Taking care of yourself and your mental health is extremely important. I used to put everyone else in front of me for YEARS, until I realised that if I didn’t take care of myself first, no one would.
- Do things because you want, not because of other people. This can be applicable in a lot of aspects in life, from fashion to life choices. Make sure you are doing things because you are excited and happy to do them, not because you think everyone else wants you to and it is what you should.
- It is completely fine to ask for help. I have always been the type of person that would never ask for help on anything. That is stupid. If you need help, ask for it, it doesn’t make you a failure or weak, in fact is the opposite.
- Do not be afraid of failure. I feel like we are taught how failing is not an option and we associate it with a bad or negative response. What I have learned is that failing is normal and completely natural. The only thing about failure is that you do not give up and always keep trying.
- Parents are the greatest gift of them all. No matter how many times you get angry at them, how many times you mess up… they are the only ones that are ALWAYS going to be there. Treat them with respect and love, SO MUCH LOVE. They won’t be here forever so you need to spend time with them.
- Listen to your gut. You feel it for something, so don’t be afraid to do what you feel is right, even if everybody else feels like you shouldn’t.
- Change is good. May be scary, but it is good. You won’t like the same things, stay in the same place for the rest of your life… embrace the little changes.
- Quality is better than quantity. We all need friends in our lives, people we can trust. When we are young, we really think the more the better! But in real, life, I have learnt that I rather have two or three really good friends than hundreds of them who are never there when I really need them.
- Stop spending money on stupid things. You already have so many clothes, why spend money on more clothes that you eventually won’t wear? Making smarter choices with your money is extremely important, and you will see how it affects everything on the long run.
- Do not compare yourself with others. We are not all the same, we do not have the same bodies, or thoughts or beliefs. Stop comparing yourself with everyone, because it is seriously not worth it.
- Travel as much as you can. Now that I am working and I need to think of how many holidays I have left, to make it work with my boyfriends holidays… it is hard. Try to travel as much as you can, and never stop doing that. Travelling gives you such another view in life, cultures, countries… never stop that.
- You don’t need to have your life together. When I was younger I used to look up at people in their 20s thinking they were so put together and they knew what they were doing. NO, LIES. No one has their life together in their 20s, and that is completely fine, go out and explore, have fun, and figure it out. It is completely fine.
- Always keep learning. That doesn’t mean you have to keep going to university or anything like that. I refer it more in life. Always strive to know more about things you are interested in or you know are going to be useful, don’t stop yourself from growing.
- Don’t rush. We all have different timings, some people get married while others are finishing up their master degree, others take a gap year and others have a baby. Do not feel like you need to rush on certain things, just because everyone else around you is doing different things. If that was the case for me, I’d be married and with a baby now, and to be honest, no, thank you.
- It is OK to say no. If you don’t wan to do something, say no. Don’t feel like you are a bad person or anything like that, because it is not true!
- I have an obsession with Japanese food. Less deep I know but it is something I have learned and I am embracing it, I have no plans of slowing down.
- Not everyone will like you. That is okay! It’s the same with me not liking everyone, some people have connections and others don’t. Stop trying to please everyone, and be liked by everyone, it is a waste of time.
- I like to be alone. It is not that I hate people, but every once in a while, I like spending time by myself, it is very calming and relaxing.
- You are going to get tired of clubs. When you are younger and underage, clubbing is the goal to reach for because is what “adults” go and you feel like a rebel by going, but after 20 I got tired of them really fast. I rather go for a drink at a rooftop bar with my friends than a club now.
- Don’t chase people around. If you feel like you are constantly chasing after someone and they never do that to you, let them go.
- Be kind, but not stupid. Some people like to take advantage of kind people because they are nice and innocent. False, that you are kind doesn’t mean you have to be stupid. Don’t let people use you and trick you, and always stand up for yourself.
- It hurts, but sometimes you need to let go. Unexpected things happen: break ups, betrayals… of course they are going to hurt, but don’t hold grudges forever, be the grown up one and let it go. Don’t let a particular event define you.
I am actually so curious, what is one thing you have learnt this year?